How to Become a Happier Person

undefinedKristin Baron Cuthriell has a blockbuster of a post over at her blog on the topic of happiness:

Where are you looking for happiness?

Studies show that our personal happiness is…

  • 50% Predisposition/The way we were born.
  • 10% Circumstances: You got it. Only around 10% of our happiness has to do with our situation and circumstances.
  • 40% Our intentional activities.  This is what we can change.

Lyubomirsky, S. (2008) The How of Happiness. New York: Penguin.

Get the rest here: How to Become a Happier Person – Let Life in Practices

Let Go of Perfectionism

“A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow.” ~Proverb

I’m a “recovering perfectionist.”

I make perfect plans. At times, when I’m really working on my plans, I forget to live my actual life.  Because I’m planning. Perfectly.

I had my first strategic plan when I was 10.

“Be a really, really good girl. Then, when you are 16, borrow the car and say that you are going to Drug Fair to buy hairspray. Instead, drive the 15 minutes to your daddy’s house so that he’ll want you back.”

A year later I had to revise my first strategic plan. My alcoholic father died.

Here was the second plan:

“Now you’re all alone.” (Which wasn’t true, by the way. It just felt that way. Anyway, back to the plan.)  “Now you’re all alone. Be perfect.”

In the first plan, I just had to be “good” to be rescued.  In the second one, there was no rescue.

I needed to be perfect.” Get more here: Let Go of Perfectionism: It’s the Leap That Counts | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

Here’s Why It’s VITAL To Be 100% Self-Approved!

Mastin Kipp at The Daily Love has some good thoughts I’d like to amplify today…

With the uneducated approach to life, we tend to seek outward for things that are within us. Goals, intentions, desires, etc. are all well and good, but if the motive for why we want them goes unexamined, we can keep ourselves in a form of bondage.

One of the great mistakes in life is living life as an “If, then” statement. “If I get X, then I’ll be happy.” The goal is to be happy now.

So are you happy now? And if not, why not? Continue reading