The New Year. A fresh start. A new beginning.
For me, the marking of the New Year is filled with hope, with potential, and with anticipatory excitement. It is a time of reflection–honoring what has been, what is currently happening, and what is yet to come.
Consciously honoring rites of passages such as the New Year allows us to think about our lives in a way we often don’t do. It’s easy to get caught in the grind–moving through life on autopilot. We have our routines and schedules–we trudge along week by week by week.
But the New Year is a break in the pattern. It is an ending and a beginning. It is an opportunity to stop, reflect, and start again.
In this article I am going to guide you towards honoring your New Year. Here are some simple thoughts and questions to help you reflect on what happened in 2012, to align you with what you are grateful for in this very moment, and to set you up to move in the direction you want in 2013.
Full story at: Soul Full: How to Honor the Rite of Passage of the New Year.
Terri Cole writes:
It is an annual occurrence. We run on autopilot from Thanksgiving through Christmas, and then around December 26, we start to think about new habits we want to create and bad habits we want to ditch. We evaluate what hasn’t been serving our purpose and what we need to change in order to be more fulfilled. For some reason, we have a difficult time implementing new strategies in the present moment. It’s as if we must wait for a momentous occasion that clearly marks new beginnings.
Does the split second between December 31 and January 1 possess some kind of transformational magic? Do we really need a specific calendar date to create our best lives?
Nope. We really don’t.
The biggest challenge is realizing the potential for renewal you have in every moment. If you focus on staying present instead of mulling over the past or anxiously awaiting the future, you can harness the power of your intention and make what seems impossible, possible. Obsessing about what you did and did not do in the past and fearfully projecting into the future is your fear mind limiting your potential.
Once you release the fear, you can stay rooted in the here and now and develop present moment awareness. You can begin to truly discover what you want more and less of in your life based on who you are NOW rather than on how you have behaved in the past.
Recognize you are a work in progress, which is a process that thankfully never ends. Realize that at any moment you can declare a Do Over—to create that magic split second of New Year’s transformation—any day of the week.
You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future. Now is not then, and no matter how familiar it may feel, this present moment has never happened before. Instead of fearing what may happen, harness the mind-blowing power of your intention to create what you want to happen.
Whether it’s now because New Years is right around the corner, or at any other time throughout the year, here is a great exercise to get you on the path to sustainable change.
Full story at: Creating A New You For The New Year!.
Marci Shimoff shares a healthy perspective for the holidays:
For the last three mornings, I’ve woken up with the holiday song “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” going through my head. (Those store soundtracks have an insidious way of taking over your brain!)
My spontaneous rebuttal is “It’s the most STRESSFUL time of the year.”
While this can be a fun and fulfilling time, it can also be a time of great challenge. Depression is higher during the holiday season than during any other time of the year.
Is there a better way to live through the holidays so that you plug into the “fun and fulfilling” part and lessen the “stressful” part?
I’ve been exploring that myself this year, as I’ve been feeling some sadness these past few weeks. I’m missing my parents and some dear friends who’ve passed away over the past years, and I’m not in a primary relationship, which can make me feel a bit lonely during the holidays. Yet, I still want to keep my heart open and expanded during this time.
I’ve found a holiday prescription that’s working for me and can also work for you.
It’s based on dealing with the five main sources of stress that can lead to the holiday blues.
Those Five Main Sources of Stress Are:
1. Overconsumption: We tend to over-shop, overeat, overdrink, over-everything! Can you relate?
2. Loneliness: This is time when we can feel most isolated or alone, even if we’re surrounded by lots of people.
3. Time Pressure: In the mad rush of the season, we stop taking care of ourselves.
4. Financial Stress: No need to explain this!
5. Loss of Perspective: With such an emphasis on buying the right gifts, having the right clothes for parties and gatherings, and finding the right ingredients for our holiday meals, we often lose perspective on what really brings fulfillment.
Now, here are The Top Five Tips to Make It Through the Holidays, keeping your heart open and your joy flowing.
1. Connect to Your Heart
When you find yourself reaching for that fifth gingerbread man or cup of eggnog, stop and take a few deep breaths in and out of your heart. For extra power, place your hand over your heart to stimulate the happiness chemical oxytocin.
2. Find Community and Support
If you’re alone, make sure you seek out people to spend time with. Don’t isolate yourself. Once you have people around you, focus on the ways you appreciate and enjoy them rather than getting stuck in your judgments or criticisms. Yes, family can bring up your “stuff,” but see it as an opportunity to work on your limiting patterns and let love prevail.
3. Take Time for Yourself
In the midst of the holiday whirl is when we MOST need to set aside time to take care of ourselves. One of my favorite ways is to take a fifteen-minute hot bath with sea salt and lavender oil at night to relax. It feels delicious, and it rebalances the body’s energetic field.
4. Serve Others
Giving of your time and your heart to serve others who are in need will help take your attention off of the desire to overconsume. Altruism and service are a fast track to heart opening.
5. Go Spiritual
The time around the winter solstice, when there’s more darkness, is actually a very spiritual time. Take the opportunity to go inward—meditate or connect with spirit in any way that works for you. Spiritual practice is the best antidote I know of to help you keep balance and perspective during the craziness of the season.
With some gentle attention on these five tips, you’ll find yourself humming “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” and meaning it.
May this season be nurturing and joyful for you.
Full story at: Christmas Anxiety? 4 Ways Not To Sweat The Small Stuff.
I HATE CHRISTMAS. Or perhaps it would be better to say I hate what Christmas has become. The consumerism, the expectations, the obligations; none of which have anything to do with ‘reason for the season’ — celebrating relationship with a higher power…
Perhaps that is why I like this perspective from The Minimalists so much:
What if you could receive only one Christmas present this year? What would it be?
The answer for us is simple: time.
You see, the people we care about mean much more to us than a new pair of shoes or a shiny new gadget or even a certified pre-owned luxury car with a huge bow on top.
And yet, many of us attempt to give material items to make up for the time we don’t spend with the people we love. But possessions can’t ever make up for lost time.
The next time someone asks you what you want for Christmas, consider responding with, “Your presence is the best gift you can give me.”
When you’re completely focused in the moment—no TV, no Internet, no distractions—it makes a marked difference in the lives of the people around you. When you’re fully present, your love radiates.
And if you’re going to give gifts this holiday season, why not give your unencumbered time and attention first? Your loved ones will be glad you did.” via The Best Present Is Presence | The Minimalists.
Gretchen Rubin has some valuable insight for those who struggle with the holidays for one reason or another:
Holidays can be tough. Some people love them; some people dread them.
I thought a lot about the holidays as I was writing Happier at Home, because the holiday season tends to be a time when we focus on home. Maybe you’re going “home” the way I go home to Kansas City for Christmas–which may be fun for you, or not. Maybe you’re deciding how to decorate your home. Maybe you’re making an effort to arrange the holidays the way you experienced them as a child–or the opposite. Maybe you’re feeling sad, or happy, about whom you will or won’t be seeing.
From talking to people, it seems that one of the biggest happiness challenges of the holidays is dealing with difficult relatives. You want to have a nice dinner, but Uncle Bobby makes you crazy. What to do?” Get the answer here: 8 Tips for Dealing with Difficult Relatives During the Holiday Season. « The Happiness Project.