I will affirm the good until it sinks in and feels real

Todd Lohenry:

Heh, heh, heh. Now you’re quoting Melody Beattie? I thought I was reading my own blog for a minute. :-D

Originally posted on Live & Learn:


“…Help me let go of my need to stay immersed in negativity. I can change the energy in myself and my environment from nega­tive to positive. I will affirm the good until it sinks in and feels real. I will also strive to find one quality that I like about someone else who’s important to me, and I will take the risk of telling him or her that.”

  ~ Melody Beattie

I may be the only one on the planet who didn’t know about Melanie Beattie’s back story.  And what an incredible story she has.  Here’s more than a few excerpts from her bio on her blog page:

Melody Beattie, is the author of the international self help best seller titled Codependent No More where she introduced the psychological condition called “codependency.”  Over eight million copies of the book have been sold worldwide.  Millions of…

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