Pinpoint How You’re Annoying People and Do Something About It!

We all have our pet peeves. But have you ever wondered about the annoying things you do that your friends, family, and strangers are too polite to tell you about? I do, and I decided to do something about it.

It’s easy to talk about self improvement, but in reality we’re not that adept at seeing our own faults. The problem is that most people aren’t going to tell you when you’re doing something wrong until it gets to a point where they don’t want to hang around you anymore. I’m the type who’s easily annoyed, so I assume most of my friends and family are as well. It’s also no secret that humans as a race have a lot of pet peeves, whether it’s at the office, on a mobile phone, or in a restaurant.

To find out how I may be annoying the people around me, I wanted to open up a dialogue where friends and strangers could give me a performance review to help me pinpoint when I’m being an asshole and actually do something about it. Here’s how I did it, and how you can do the same.” Get more here: The Accidental Asshole: Pinpoint How You’re Annoying People and Do Something About It.

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As someone who spends a lot of time on and with their iPhone, I’ve found that the times where I unplug and disconnect tend to be the moments where I’m actually the most connected with the task at hand. I’ve been in situations where i’m out with friends having a drink and they are all typing away on their smartphones, socializing with others that aren’t with them “in real life” rather than actually socializing the old-fashioned way. I’ve seen parents plunk their kids’ in front of the toys provided at coffee shops so they can engage with their phones – instead of with fellow patrons or the children they brought with them. I’ve seen the glow of cellphones on until the last possible moment in a movie theatre, showing that the users are waiting until the last possible moment to “untether” from their devices and escape into the film they’re about to watch.

In other words, I’ve seen iDisorder all over the place.

In his book, “iDisorder: Understanding Our Obsession With Technology and Overcoming Its Hold on Us”, Dr. Larry Rosen not only explores research (both pre-existing and his own), but also tries to give readers the resources to avoid falling prey to this type of behaviour – a type of behaviour that is sweeping the globe.” Get more here: Lifehack Book Review: iDisorder.

“A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow.” ~Proverb

I’m a “recovering perfectionist.”

I make perfect plans. At times, when I’m really working on my plans, I forget to live my actual life.  Because I’m planning. Perfectly.

I had my first strategic plan when I was 10.

“Be a really, really good girl. Then, when you are 16, borrow the car and say that you are going to Drug Fair to buy hairspray. Instead, drive the 15 minutes to your daddy’s house so that he’ll want you back.”

A year later I had to revise my first strategic plan. My alcoholic father died.

Here was the second plan:

“Now you’re all alone.” (Which wasn’t true, by the way. It just felt that way. Anyway, back to the plan.)  “Now you’re all alone. Be perfect.”

In the first plan, I just had to be “good” to be rescued.  In the second one, there was no rescue.

I needed to be perfect.” Get more here: Let Go of Perfectionism: It’s the Leap That Counts | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

If you are good at something… – Lead.Learn.Live..