Melody Beattie writes:
Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced.
The belief that we must square our shoulders and get through a meager, deprived existence for far-off “rewards in Heaven” is a codependent belief.
Yes, most of us still have times when life will be stressful and challenge our endurance skills. But in recovery, were learning to live, to enjoy our life, and handle situations as they come.
Our survival skills have served us well. They have gotten us through difficult times — as children and adults. Our ability to freeze feelings, deny problems, deprive ourselves, and cope with stress has helped us get where we are today. But we’re safe now. We’re learning to do more than survive. We can let go of unhealthy survival behaviors. We’re learning new, better ways to protect and care for ourselves. We’re free to feel our feelings, identify and solve problems, and give ourselves the best. We’re free to open up and come alive.
Today, I will let go of my unhealthy endurance and survival skills. I will choose a new mode of living, one that allows me to be alive and enjoy the adventure.” via June 14: Enjoyment.
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- Basics of Codependency (toddlohenry.com)
- Choices (toddlohenry.com)
- Fear & Codependency (toddlohenry.com)
- Are You Making Someone Else Your Higher Power? (toddlohenry.com)
- Letting Go of Self Doubt (toddlohenry.com)
- Why does life have to be so hard? (toddlohenry.com)
- Sadness (toddlohenry.com)