What did the Buddhist monk say to the hot-dog vendor? Can you make me one with everything?
I was buckling my seat belt in the little Cessna one day, getting ready for flight training, when my instructor Rob turned to me.
“I just take a second when I strap myself in and tell myself I’m becoming one with the plane as I do,” Rob said. “It really helped me in the beginning when I was nervous and felt so separate from the airplane.”
What a great idea, I thought. That day turned into one of my most comfortable flying sessions. It reminded me of a lesson I had learned a while back.
For most of my life, I felt disconnected from things: from myself, from other people, from life. That feeling of separateness haunted me. It explains why I tried so desperately to attach myself codependently to people, places, and things.
Over the years, I began to see that my separateness was an illusion. The same energy, the same life force, that runs through all the universe runs through you and me, too.
We’re connected, whether we know it or not.
Nobody has to make you one with everything. You already are.
Let go of your illusion of separateness.
God, help me know my oneness with the world. Help me know how connected I really am so I don’t have to connect in ways that don’t work.
Something else I like about Melody Beattie — she’s a pilot, or at least a student pilot…
- Letting Go of Self Doubt (toddlohenry.com)
- Codepedence is not just an issue for partners of addicts (toddlohenry.com)
- Choices (toddlohenry.com)
- Fear & Codependency (toddlohenry.com)
- …on Control (toddlohenry.com)